Hey legends, sorry I’ve been on the longest break from my blog, but I’m back now, so you can relax your hairline and unwind. 😆☕
To jump right to it, I’ve always noticed how my verbal communication can sometimes be a bit off…
When I posted this on Instagram, I was surprised that quite a few other aspies were able to accurately relate to this. Before my diagnosis I originally thought it was because I just didn’t talk a lot and just needed to practice more. But even when I really pushed myself in preparing my interactions and speeches in advance, I would still slip up mispronouncing something or saying the sentences in the wrong order.
It would hurt when others and sometimes my family criticized the way I talked. Although many people have also commented on how I write so eloquently.
I use my instragram account as an emotional release for my experiences as an autistic person and out of frustration of being misunderstood after many job interviews I’ve had, I posted this:
I was able to write a good enough application with a bullet proof CV/resumé to get me an interview (155 to be exact) with any company that I wanted to work with, but getting through the interview stage was always the hardest part. Why? Because my verbal communication skills weren’t as up to par with my written communication skills. 😓
It didn’t even have anything to do with nerves or lack of confidence, after 155 interviews, what did I need to be scared of? At that point, I was what they call a pro. But from other people’s perspective and lack of awareness, I just seemed timid, inexperienced and like I didn’t know what I was talking about, so therefore I wasn’t taken seriously. This had a long lasting effect on my mental well-being, but one day I decided, life is so much better when you just don’t care. 🎉 💅The people who are for you will be for you and the rest can kick the biggest rocks with their bare toes.
I still try my best although it’s a struggle, I have to put in 5x the effort just to get to a decent standard and believe when I say that it exhausts my life span like no other. I feel like the reason for the exhaustion is the fact that verbal communication has additional body senses to it like body language, facial expressions, eye contact, voice tone and volume; all things that are quite troublesome for people on the autism spectrum. Where with written communication you don’t have to deal with any of that, plus you can take your time and you’re less likely to lose your train of thought, get distracted or interrupted.
Thanks for reading!