Just about sick of the Aspie community

This has been on my mind for quite some time, months to be exact and today I just felt the need to communicate why I’m a bit ticked off in life, I might get roasted for this but I don’t care, my mind will be spoken…

The aspie community, not all but most of which who are online just seem to really aggravate me, especially whenever they talk about the condition, Aspergers, and it’s hardly ever in a positive light. There’s a lot more to the condition than just meltdowns, sensory overload, being overly drained and misunderstood…Yet one must wonder why a ‘cure’ is being pursued and why others want to fix us when we constantly give off this vibe that all we do as human beings is suffer.πŸ™„

We are extraordinary people and we should be using it to our advantage. I feel bad for those who are only now getting diagnosed, who then search online for other aspies to connect with and learn from, to then adopt this overly negative disposition. I was once a victim of this and it almost ruined my life…I felt like I was doomed for life but it took a while for me to rebuild my mindset and focus on the good.

Everyone has a secret struggle but we are not suffering. Our struggles maybe different to the majority of the planet, but we’re all in the same dirt trying to make it out on top. We may have to wriggle a little harder or do funny twists and turns, but if it gets us to where we need to be in life then so be it. If your main focus is on the struggle I can guarantee you will flop and flop every time. Long story short: Just do the work arounds and get on with it.

I don’t like this ‘masking’ or pretending to be normal thing either. I think it’s just a matter of those who don’t like change, think about it…When we go swimming we have to hold our breath and use our arms and legs in a particular way, that we wouldn’t normally do on a daily basis, but we do it anyway to master this particular skill called swimming. We are not pretending to swim,Β we areΒ swimming. Just like when socializing we use different techniques to connect and familiarize with others. We’re not pretending to socialize,Β we are socializing, though it may not feel natural to us, that doesn’t mean it’s a mask or we’re pretending to be normal. We’re learning and there’s no denying that it gets better the more we practice just like with any other skill. If you get overwhelmed, I’m sure those who love you will understand when you need to take time out.

Then there are those who live on the regret of not being diagnosed earlier, what can we honestly do about that? Beat the scientists and doctors for not making the discovery quicker? There are many things yet to be discovered, like please calm down, yes it would have been nicer to have known why we are the way we are and maybe gotten proper support, there’s lots of things that could’ve been, that didn’t. It’s gone now. We learn and move on. I personally don’t regret being diagnosed late because I know for a fact I wouldn’t have achieved half the things I already have, and with people possibly treating me different there would’ve been a lot of unnecessary hindrance in my growth as a person.

I like to look up to people like Benjamin Underwood, he lost his eyes to cancer from a young age but he never let it affect his life or anything he did in any way. He never complained about how much of a struggle his life was on a daily basis, he used what he had and casually just got on with it.

If your goal is to be a victim in life that is exactly what you will become. If you want to make something an issue that’s exactly what it will become. I’m not saying that we have to work harder to hide our pain but if there’s an opportunity to turn things around it’s up to you whether you take it or not.


Thanks for reading.



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  1. Thanks for this post. I am definitely guilty of doing many of the things you comment about, online: mentioning sensory overload, mentioning why things are a struggle/more complicated, etc. I am also aware and grateful that I have had a wonderful life and have had some opportunities as well. I guess I would just mention that in speaking about those things online, as a newly diagnosed person, I haven’t necessarily met with just “woe is me” and victimhood (although that is there for sure), but also with positive suggestions, workarounds and “you can do it” type support from others.

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    1. You’re welcome, I’m glad you didn’t have to experience that. It’s one thing to learn something new about your entire life and another to see how others handle the same situation you’re in..I’ve seen quite a lot who actually hate their lives as aspies and moan constantly about the downfalls, as our bodies are natural receptors and translators of many energies, I just want those new to it to know just because there are people like that out there that they don’t have to feel the same way.

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  2. Yassss! I love how you articulate things in such a way I could never imagine. I know a good chunk of people who wish they were born with aspergers aswell.
    I’ve come across some things online and you’re absolutely right it’s a lot more negative than positive.
    Gratitude is everything πŸ™Œ

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  3. Thank you so much for this, I can definitely relate, I felt so demoralized after my diagnosis and it didn’t help when others were banging on about everything wrong with the condition, but somehow they, ‘love being an aspie’πŸ™„
    There are so many traits we aspies have to offer the world NT’s can only dream of having.

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  4. I appreciate you bringing this to light, I too experience that doomed feeling from time to time and you’re right there isn’t much positivity in the aspie community… we need to do better.

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  7. I really appreciate this 😊. The swimming analogy really stood out to me, I never really thought about it like that but it makes so much sense.
    I don’t really regret being diagnosed late either and people who do sound so stupid to me cuz it’s like ‘oh I regret that I had to learn things on my own, if only I could unlearn them so others could coddle me’.
    Don’t get me wrong the support would’ve been nice but I feel even more proud that I’ve managed to get through my entire life without it.

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  8. This is awesome!! I’m guilty of doing many of the things you mentioned (oops!). But I promise that I don’t “live there” in terms of the negativity. I really, really like being an Aspie, and my partner even wishes he were *more* Aspie (he’s kind of mixed, if there is a such thing? He’s got plenty of traits, many more than average, but I’m not sure if he’d fit all the criteria).

    When I talk about sensory stuff or whatever, I would rather not complain, but rather, educate 😊

    This whole post is on-point and fantastic!! May I reblog on The Silent Wave? ❀️

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    1. Yes you may & thank you 😊
      I use to struggle so bad with the sensory stuff after my diagnosis but now that I’ve fully accepted it as part of who I am it’s just like meh, here we go again. Just like the menstrual cycle lol…and you’re right people are more receptive when you educate them than complain.

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